Kaylin McFarren writes award-winning romance. Her debut novel, Flaherty’s Crossing, was a 2008 Golden Heart® finalist. It’s placed in several contests as well. The novel is scheduled for release by Champagne Books in February 2010.
Although Kaylin wasn’t born with a pen in hand like many authors, she has been actively involved in both business and personal writing projects for many years. As the director of a fine art gallery, she assisted in furthering the careers of numerous visual artists who, under her guidance, gained recognition through promotional opportunities and in national publications. Eager to spread her own creative wings, she has since steered her energy toward writing novels. As a result, she has earned more than a dozen literary awards including her Golden Heart final.
Kaylin lives in the Pacific Northwest with her very supportive and patient husband, two competitive dogs, one meandering cat and a pond filled with incredibly hungry Koi. Her interests include reading, international travel, wine tasting, interior design, golf, skiing and visual arts. She makes an annual visit to Japan to enjoy the cherry blossom season, to watch her husband in action (giving motivational speeches and appearing on television shows), and to visit friends and family members who live there.
Join me as we follow Kaylin’s writing journey from first story to first sale.
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Kaylin with her pal Toby
Kaylin Embarks on Her Journey
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•You took a course fourteen years ago called Writing the Novel as well as similar ones before that, so the desire to craft a story has been part of your life for a long time. Where do you believe this interest comes from?
Actually, I’ve always had an active imagination, probably my Irish roots burrowing into my brain. For most of my life, I was an avid romance reader, longing to slip into Jane Austen’s corset.
I tried my hand at poetry and writing short stories…anything to express my love of the written word. In high school and college, a few of my short stories actually ended up in school publications, but for the most part, they were tucked away in various drawers.
As time went by, I married and was fortunate enough to travel to exotic places, meeting remarkable people, each with a unique story to tell. And along the way, I found inspiration and plenty of ideas to now channel into what I hope will be a long series of entertaining books.
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•When did you begin writing Flaherty’s Crossing, which involves a woman dealing with her father’s death due to cancer? What led you to explore such an emotionally charged subject?
Sixteen years ago, following my father’s death, I found myself obsessed with sitting in front of a typewriter, coming to terms with unresolved issues by banging on keys. This silent venting became a sort of “therapy through writing” exercise. However, this exercise slowly evolved, taking on a life of its own. I began creating a related fictional story about a woman’s personal journey, and in the process of exploring my main character’s growth, I found myself learning and growing as well.
Eventually, I came to believe I had a meaningful story to tell, one through which I could possibly touch other people who shared the same complicated family relationships – and maybe even make a difference in their lives. Yet I still struggled with bringing this tale to a close.
It wasn’t until my eldest daughter provided her amazing writing insight that I finally came to realize why I struggled with the ending, for both the book and my father’s passing: the true resolution didn’t rest in holding onto the past; it came from opening my mind to future possibilities and honoring him – not only by setting this story free, but by becoming the professional storyteller that had been hiding in my genes. And I don’t mean blue jeans… ![]()
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Kaylin’s Process
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•What is the spark of your story? Is it the characters, a particular scene, a stunning beginning or something else?
I would love to think it’s my “stunning beginning,” the first turning point in Kate Flaherty’s life. But honestly, I believe it’s the unexpected characters she encounters who impact her life in ways she could never foresee and remind her of the importance of being true to her heart.
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•Do you stick to a rigid schedule, writing a certain number of hours a day? Or do you experience creative bursts and sit at the keyboard until fatigue finally forces you to quit?
I guess I’m one of those compulsive writers who love to sit at the keyboard from 8 AM to 5 PM or until someone demands I move. In other words, until I eat, sleep or actually talk. Writing takes me to another world that could easily shut everything around me out. Fortunately I have patient, loving people in my life to ensure I remain part of the general populous.
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Mountaintop Experiences
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•On March 25, 2008, the Romance Writers of America® board members made some special phone calls. You received one telling you Flaherty’s Crossing was a Golden Heart finalist. What were you doing when the call came? And what did you do afterward?
I was in the shower, of all places, when the phone rang, and I still remember my voice echoing over the receiver. My first reaction was that my daughter Kristina was playing a joke on me, but then I got it. This was a real person. The news was real. I think I must have said thank you a dozen times before dancing around and screaming. My husband came running, thinking the hot water had run out.
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•Last month you received life-changing news. The Call. Your hard work and dedication had paid off. Champagne Books bought your GH finaling story. Please share your reaction with all its emotionally charged details.
My “call story” is pretty straightforward. With a few months of sending out the requested full manuscript of Flaherty’s Crossing to Ellen Smith at Champagne Books, I received an exciting email from her offering a contract. I was ecstatic to say the least. I called everyone I could think of and poured myself a large glass of wine to celebrate. Even now when I think of it, I have to pinch myself to confirm it’s real.
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•The good news just keeps coming. Your new story, Severed Threads, took first place in the Utah RWA’s Great Beginnings contest. I understand this win means a lot to you. Why is that?
With Flaherty’s Crossing in the “process” of release, I got busy trying my hand at one of my favorite genres – action/adventure romance. Being my first attempt at writing in a very competitive category, I was anxious for feedback on my wip, and although I couldn’t help but hope, I didn’t expect the entry to even final. So, when I received word that Severed Threads had won first place, I was blown away. Winning this contest has not only been an honor, but affirmation that I’m headed in the right direction with a book I’m having so much fun writing. ![]()
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In the Valley
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•You received a number of rejections on Flaherty’s Crossing. No matter how much we brace ourselves, it hurts to have our work turned down. Who or what enabled you to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and send your story out again?
Flaherty’s Crossing was truly a labor of love, but it also crossed a few genres – making it a difficult book to place with a large house. At first I took the rejections as reflections on my writing skills, then I realized although they didn’t accept it, I was receiving a great deal of praise from publishers via personal notes and emails.
Rather than hold back to see what might happen way down the road or completely reinvent the novel based on suggestions I didn’t feel were true to the core of my story, my daughter Kristina McMorris encouraged me to take hold of the reins. I pursued smaller houses, where they are more open to books that are out-of-the-box. Fortunately, Flaherty’s Crossing and I have found a wonderful home at Champagne Books!
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Partners on Kaylin’s Journey
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•You had a special editor assist you on Flaherty’s Crossing. Your daughter Kristina. What contributions did she make to the story? Was she tough on her mom, pushing you to new heights, or did she serve more as grammar patrol?
Although Kristina is my daughter, she is also my best friend and strongest supporter – you might say, my other half – thus my pen name, Kaylin (K = Kris, Lin = Linda). She is an amazing author in her own right and my toughest critic. She can peel the toughest hide by shoving creative vision to the wayside or insulting suggested word choices during the course of editing. But in the long run, I admire her honesty and tenacity. As far as I’m concerned, every project I sink my teeth into is a collaborated effort in every respect because of her. (Even if I secretly want to pitch her halfway across the room.)
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•You have a number of multi-published authors as critique partners. Do you meet in person, or do you exchange your work via email? What are some of the most valuable lessons you’ve learned from your CPs?
On occasion I meet with my CPs to get feedback, but for the most part we discuss our plot issues, story lines and dreaded synopses via email.
I guess the most valuable lessons I’ve learned in this shared process/partnership are: 1) Keep an open mind – just be willing to see the whole movie and don’t fall in love with a slide; and 2) Sometimes you’re so busy stepping around holes in a story, you don’t take the time to fill them until your favorite CP falls into one.
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Kaylin’s Journey Continues
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•Your debut novel, Flaherty’s Crossing, is in your publisher’s hands, and you’re awaiting feedback. What requests for revisions, if any, do you expect?
I’ve been told my assigned editor will provide “suggested changes” to my story in August. I can only hope these revisions are limited to word choices or spelling errors. But in a perfect world, there wouldn’t be any, right?
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•Your new novel, Severed Threads, is making a splash on the contest circuit. What are your plans for it? Revision? Submission?
Although I would love to believe otherwise, Severed Threads is still a work in progress. From contests like Great Beginnings, I’m looking forward to receiving helpful feedback that I can apply as I continue to develop the story. Once it’s completed and thoroughly reviewed, I’ll be actively engaged in the submission process all over again.
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•What are you working on now? Something similar to one of your other stories or something entirely different?
Although I’m still working on Severed Threads at this time, I’m also a sort of “research assistant” and most likely assistant editor for Kristina’s second contracted book, which is presently in the works.
In addition, I have ideas for another exciting story that will follow on the coat tails of Severed Threads, which will take readers into the mysterious and entrancing world of Kyoto’s geisha quarters. Did I ever tell you I’m never short on ideas? Irish storyteller, right?
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Your First Book
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Please tell us about your debut novel, Flaherty’s Crossing.
Successful yet emotionally stifled artist Kate Flaherty stands at the deathbed of her estranged father, conflicted by his morphine-induced confession exposing his part in her mother’s death. While racing home, Kate’s car mishap leads her to a soul-searching discussion with a lone diner employee, prompting Kate to confront the true reasons her marriage hangs in the balance. When her night takes an unexpected turn, however, she flees for her life, a life desperate for faith that can only be found through her ability to forgive.
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Five Fun Facts About Kaylin
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~ Even though I already had a boyfriend, my future husband told everyone we knew in college I was the girl he was going to marry – only two days after we met. (Believe it or not, we were engaged two weeks later.)
~ I’m crazy for dessert and sometimes would prefer to skip dinner altogether just to indulge. (Crème Brule and Amaretto Cheesecake are my all time favorites.)
~ I love large family get-togethers where everyone talks over each other, even though it drives polite introverts crazy. (I was blessed with three daughters, but would have loved to have had eight children.)
~ I’m kind of a neat freak. I can’t leave my house without making my bed first, and I always clean up before my housekeepers arrive. (I wouldn’t want them to see how messy I am.)
~ Whenever I feel depressed about money, I go shopping. For some strange reason, it always makes me feel better. (I figure I’ll deal with the guilt later.)
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Kaylin’s Question for You
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•I’ve enjoyed having you as my guest, Kaylin. Thanks for your great answers to my questions. And now it’s your turn to ask a question of your visitors. What would you like to know?
After being married for 36 years, I’m often asked, “How have you managed to stay together for so long?” Everyone has their pat answers, but I’d really be interested in knowing what people attribute their successful marriage or relationship to? Do you give in, never go to bed mad or avoid each other at all costs?
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Learn More About Kaylin
Visit her Web site: http://www.kaylinmcfarren.com
Friend her on Facebook: Kaylin McFarren
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Leave a Comment for Two Chances to Win
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My Regular Drawing
My next drawing will take place June 30th. The winner will receive an etched steel magnet with the word Dream scroll cut from its center.
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To enter the drawing, just leave a comment on any blog post by June 30th and enter your email address when prompted. (I don’t share your information or add it to any mailing lists.) On July 1st, I’ll post the winner’s name in the Welcome post at the top of the blog.
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You could also win a First Sale Scrapbook!
If you’d like to have a chance at winning a First Sale Scrapbook created by me, your blog hostess Keli Gwyn, leave a comment on any post between now and June 30th. Be sure to include your name and email address when prompted if you want to be entered in the drawing. (Your information will not be shared.) Click red link above to see samples of covers and pages.
On July 1st, I will choose one person who will have her/his choice of several covers on an 8×8 inch, twenty-page scrapbook in which s/he can document that long-awaited first sale. The pages will cover various milestones including The Call, signing the contract, receiving the first advance payment and holding your “firstborn” in your hands.
(No scrapbooking skills required. You just add your photos and journaling.)
June 28, 2009 at 3:24 pm
Welcome, Kaylin. I’m delighted to have our “Mama Pixie” as my guest. I’ve enjoyed the opportunity to get to know more about you and your writing as we’ve prepared for your interview.
My hubby and I have been married 21 years. I’d say what makes things work so well for us is that he’s incredibly supportive, extremely patient and blind to my many faults.
In all seriousness, Gwynly believes in me and is President of the Keli Gwyn fan club. I just so happen to think he’s the best husband in the world and one of the nicest people I’ve ever met.
My guy and I have mutual respect and a strong desire to see our other half succeed. We keep the channels of communication open and don’t let problems go unresolved, even if talking them over is painful at times. Like most couples, our road has held rough patches, but we’re deeply committed to traveling it hand in hand despite the inevitable challenges we encounter. And we have our shared faith, which is an integral part of our lives and our relationship.
June 28, 2009 at 4:22 pm
Hey, Mama Pixie !!
I am SO proud of all of your success. I was tickled pink to find out you won the Great Beginnings!
How funny that your husband announced he was going to marry you so quickly after you met. My Dad announced he was going to marry my Mom before they even met. They wrote to each other for over a year before they met. He bought the engagement ring while he was in Germany and when he came home traveled to Alabama to propose. They met May 4th, had one date and married May 11th. They were married 40 years when my Dad died. The thing I noticed most about their marriage was that they genuinely enjoyed each others company. They laughed a lot and teased a lot and really had a good time together. And my Dad had enormous respect for my Mom and we three kids knew that.
June 28, 2009 at 6:47 pm
Hi Kaylin! It was great learning more about you. It’s so cool that you and Kristina can share in the writing journey–and you’re both so gifted! I can’t wait to read Flaherty’s Crossing.
I’m not sure I know the secret to long happy marriages, but laughter seems like a good thing. My husband can always make me laugh.
–Anne
June 28, 2009 at 9:11 pm
Hey Keli, thanks for this opportunity. I can readily see why your husband is your strongest supporter. Don’t think I’ve met anyone who works so hard or who has such a big heart as you.(and incredibly patient too!)
Awww, Louisa, my girl. How awesome to hear from you! What a romantic man your father was – he must have truly seen himself as your mother’s soul mate. And with 40 years to his credit. Amazing… No wonder you have so much romance in your soul!
June 28, 2009 at 9:18 pm
Hi Anne! I actually read your interview and LOVED it. Good luck in all your endeavors. I do consider myself fortunate in being able to share my interest with Kristina – she is indeed my best bud. But it’s also fun meeting great writers like yourself. Thanks for the encouraging words and the confirmation that laughter is truly the key to a happy marriage…
-Kaylin
June 29, 2009 at 3:56 am
I think it’s so neat that you and your daughter share the same passion. My mom doesn’t get my writing at all, though she supports that I do it. It has to be wonderful to be able to talk about it with each other!
Congratulations on your sale, and on your contest successes!
June 29, 2009 at 4:50 am
Congratulations on your sale. How great you were able to get a book you cared about published without shaping it to someone else’s vision.
… And how marvelous to have your daughter be part of your work.
June 29, 2009 at 6:07 am
Good morning Kaylin! Congratulations on your contract!!
Hubby and I just celebrated our 7th anniversary, which may not be long, but it’s been happy. Probably because he puts up with my moodiness (I blame it on writing, lol)!
June 29, 2009 at 6:16 am
Congrats on your success! And thank you for sharing your journey to publication.
My husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for nearly 2. We’re both still fairly young, but one of the commitments we’ve made to each is not to view our relationship as having an “out.” We plan to grow old together, yet we both realize that we’ll likely encounter bumps along the way. And when we do, we will simply have to work through them and remember that “quitting” is not an option.
Also whenever I get really upset or we have a bad argument, I remember that I would rather be sitting together and fighting then not together at all. Even when we’re both a our worst, he is the one person I want by my side day in and day out. In fact, the more I think about this answer the more I want to call him at the office and tell him how much I love him.
June 29, 2009 at 6:31 am
Hello, Kaylin!!!
D. D. Scott here!!!
Congrats on your success! Your story sounds fabulous!
For me and my SweetMan, it’s all about unconditional love, respect, and knowing at the end of the day all that matters is being that “just you and me”.
We have a sign in our kitchen reminding us of this very notion that “at the end of the day…it’s just you and me”.
Sexy, Sassy, Smart Wishes — D. D. Scott
http://www.DDScott.com
June 29, 2009 at 6:57 am
Congrats on your upcoming release, Kaylin! So glad to hear that this wonderful story has finally found a home. Can’t wait to read it!
Hope to see you in DC in July!!
June 29, 2009 at 7:25 am
Hey MJ. Thanks for your sweet thoughts. I’m delighted your mother supports your passion. No matter what, don’t let go of that…
Good morning, Kate, and thank you as well. I guess my stubborn side makes it hard for me to compromise. But then that’s what good storytelling’s all about, right?
Well, Avery…I understand that if you can make it to seven, you’ll make it to heaven. Congratulations on your happy marriage.
Aaah, Sarah. I love your “no option” pack, and do make that call. My DH and I agreed years ago to never bring up the “D” word and it seems to have worked. Although there have been times…:p
June 29, 2009 at 7:28 am
Hi Mummsy Pixie!
More hugs on your upcoming release! My hubby and I will celebrate 20 years this December. We’ve learned over the years not to sweat the small stuff and to ask for breathing room when we need it. But more importantly, we laugh. And when things get stickier, we laugh some more. Joy!
June 29, 2009 at 7:32 am
Oooo, D.D., I LOVE the sign in the kitchen! Gonna have to get me one of those. Something like…Remember why you married me! LOL
Appreciate the good words, Laura. And I can’t wait for you to read my book too! I’ll definitely be in DC so will be sure to look for you. Are you be signing this year?
June 29, 2009 at 7:50 am
Good morning, Kaylin–
Love how you picked your pen name! Keeps Kristina close always. Very sweet. Your book sounds wonderful and I’ll be excited to read it.
I’ve been married 28 years this August. I still can’t believe it when I say that. That’s a long time. I think forgiveness is the key. We all let each other down at times and if we can forgive and forget–life goes on.
Keep up the fantastic work.
Another great interview, Keli!!
~C
June 29, 2009 at 7:53 am
Congrats!
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I am so happy for your successes.
Kris helped me with one of my WIPs too and it sold. She must have the magic touch–just like her mother
Best too you!
Kimberley
June 29, 2009 at 8:03 am
I had the pleasure of reading and judging Flaherty’s Crossing prior to the Golden Heart last year. I’m so glad you found a home for it! Good luck in your future books!
June 29, 2009 at 8:03 am
Aaah, Shelley, my pixie chicklin. Hugs to you as well! And congrats on twenty years of not sweating it and finding a way to giggle through it all.
Good morning to you as well, Caroline. Wow, can you believe it? You’ll be married 30 years before you know it. Now that’s a sign of a good marriage, I think…when you can’t believe how fast the years have slipped by.
-Kaylin
June 29, 2009 at 8:12 am
You’re an absolute doll, Kimberley! And congratulations on your sale!! Make sure I get all the details cause I definitely wanna buy this one…
Why Liese, you just made my day. Thank you for the good wishes.
Hope you’ll be reading my next book as well…
June 29, 2009 at 8:18 am
Kaylin, how lucky you are to have your daughter enjoying this with you. Enjoy the ride!
June 29, 2009 at 8:42 am
Aileen, agree with you there. I guess I just assumed mothers and daughters do these kind of things together – until we went to the RWA conference last year. Guess we were kind of a novelty which makes it all the more fun…
June 29, 2009 at 8:44 am
Howdy Mama Pixie,
I don’t think I got to congratulate you yet on your big sale! How exciting! Can’t wait to read it.
I’ve been married for 24 years and I think the reason we’ve lasted is that we both allow each other to be ourselves and follow our passions. (Hubby’s passion is volleyball and generally anything sports. I hate sports and he hates reading! So it’s a match made in heaven! LOL).
Patience, tolerance and respect are the keys!
Continued success with your next book!
Cheers,
Sue Mason
June 29, 2009 at 9:22 am
Kaylin, it was fun reading the *story* of your journey. You already know how excited I am for you
, and that I’m lifting a glass to your continued success
I will be married 37 years in August. The secret??? Heck if I know, but… there is one thing I’ve learned along the way. It’s not him against me, or visa versa. And when I can let go of my fears, whatever they are…him leaving, me losing who I am (and who am I?), me thinking his struggles to figure himself out are about me and not him…we’re very, very happy. I’m looking forward to growing old with him
June 29, 2009 at 9:35 am
Howdy to you too, Sue!! (BTW have I told you how much I love my Pixies??) The divided passions work well for us too. My DH is heavy into karate (I call it his kungfu -ie thing which results in rolled eyes) and I, of course, love writing. He stays out of the library when the doors are closed and I avoid his dojo at all costs. You might say we mutually tolerate each others hobby.
June 29, 2009 at 9:39 am
Kaylin–
Congrats on your sale! How exciting for you and how fun that you share your passion for writing with your daughter.
June 29, 2009 at 9:41 am
Why, Susan, anyone who drinks to my continued success at 9:22am in the morning is definitely a great friend!
And girl, I hope you have a great time celebrating your 37th next month, or whenever you both figure out who you are…
June 29, 2009 at 9:50 am
Good morning, Mama!
Such a fun interview. Glad others are enjoying the chance to get to know you like I do! Given as technically challenged as you usually are, I must say, I’m very impressed with how well you’re handling all these posts — and this early in the morning, to boot. You haven’t even called me yet to ask, “Now, how does this blog-thingy work?” (Well, thank to Keli!) LOL.
Love you! XXXOOO
June 29, 2009 at 9:56 am
Hi Kaylin! Very interesting blog. Congrats on your sale! I’ve been expecting it to happen.
My DH and I have been married 28 years, and it’s the second for both of us. We can get so petty and stupid at times that I sometimes wonder how we’ve managed to stay together. But in actuality, those times are pretty rare. We just know each other, and know we’ll always be there for each other. I admire his integrity and loyalty, and the accomplishments he’s made- he had such a rough childhood that his teachers predicted he and his brother would spend their lives in prison. But that wasn’t what he wanted from life, and he set about getting what mattered for him. I don’t think there’s a day that goes by that I don’t realize some new reason why I want to be spending my life with him. It’s a different kind of love than the one we had so many years ago- one I could never have comprehended back then, and far more wonderful.
June 29, 2009 at 11:56 am
I didn’t know FC was coming out! Must make note of it! Congrats.
June 29, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Thanks, Gina. I guess we’re both passionate girls…:-)
Kristina, you’re such a tease. I got this blog-thingy all figured out. Keli’s my girl. Even got facebook down (fb to people on the “inside” track). But not sure about “twitting” on Tweeter or is it Twatter…
Hey, Delle. Thank you for visiting me! I’m in awe of your incredible relationship with you DH. Obviously you both are dedicated and successful in your goals AND your love.
June 29, 2009 at 12:12 pm
Woo hoo, Jenna! Can you believe it?? I’m an honest to goodness author. Thanks for the good wishes, Darlin’…
June 29, 2009 at 12:30 pm
My XY ‘n me just live in sin. It’s worked well for almost 12 years so I think we’ll stick with it
Having similar passions is important, I think. He’s a musician and I’m a writer so we share the frustations, challenges and triumphs… and weird hours
Congrats, Kaylin, on all your wins lately. Can’t wait to see FC out after hearing so much about it!
June 29, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Sounds like you’ve got it all figured out, Jessa. Exciting creative passion, with weird hours. What else could a person ask for??
PS – Be sure to check my website at http://www.kaylinmcfarren.com for updates on release info.
June 29, 2009 at 1:36 pm
Hi Mama Pixie,
Fabulous interview! It was a lot of fun to learn the random facts about you – I, too, like to shop when I’m stressed about money.
It’s been lovely getting to know you and your daughter over the GH loop this past year. Continued success to both of you!
June 29, 2009 at 2:49 pm
Greetings, Liz. Yep…that’s me and shopping. Any excuse to go crazy – but money definitely sets me off.
Thanks for the good words and success to you as well!
June 29, 2009 at 3:10 pm
How have I survived 40 years of marriage? Simple – she’s always right, I’m always wrong. Goes with the territory (g). I also never try to say anything that may be taken out of context and cause hurt feelings. Now that one’s hard. Plus, I’ve never made her feel that she didn’t still rock my boat. That one’s not hard at all.
Michael Davis
Author of the year
Davisstories.com
June 29, 2009 at 3:26 pm
Wow! Michael you impress me. How awesome to hear a man’s pov and such a powerful one too. If we could all learn just a wee bit from you, wouldn’t our lives be a whole lot easier??
-Kaylin
June 29, 2009 at 4:58 pm
Hi Kaylin,
We’re friends on Facebook but I didn’t know you were a Champagne Author. I am too. I enjoyed hearing more about you and your stories.
Best of luck with sales and future stories.
Linda
June 29, 2009 at 5:14 pm
How cool is that, Linda?? Thanks for the good wishes and your friendship as well.
June 29, 2009 at 6:09 pm
Congrats on your sale! Great interview, I really enjoyed it. You will loose part of the neat freek as you get older, because I did.
June 29, 2009 at 6:22 pm
Welcome!!
I have a feeling that personal tragedy is one of the big drivers for many writers. My mother’s death was the spark that ignited me into writing my first novel (not to be confused with my first published novel, though).
To answer your question on successful marriages, I always go back to my favorite method: Losing your hearing…never fails.
Barring that, I’d say having unbelievable patience and an unselfish attitude.
June 29, 2009 at 9:04 pm
Hi, Kristina’s Mom!
Sorry so late, but it’s been that kind of day.
We met in Dallas, and I’m thrilled to hear your book found a home. Hope to see you in DC with your darling daughter.
My sweetie and I have been married 34 years. They haven’t always been easy, but I think what made it work is that we were committed to doing so.
Notice the “we.”
Before we married, we agreed divorce wouldn’t be an option, that we’d work things out. That commitment was tested a time or ten, but we hung in. The good news is we not only still love each other, but are still IN love with each other. (Not that I haven’t wanted to shoot him now and again, mind you )
There’s no I in wed, but we is in there.
June 29, 2009 at 10:33 pm
Greetings Quilt lady. I truly hope to lose my neat freak status one day soon. There’s definitely a lot of other things I’d rather focus on. Namely good friends and unconditional love.
Hey Aston!! How fun to hear from you. I honestly thought my husband went deaf years ago – but now I see it’s simply a well- conceived strategy on his part. Thank goodness for growing patience as the years go by. How else would we all survive?
Ahhh, Pat! It’s so fun to connect with you again. I’ll be in DC so will definitely look for you. In regard to the DH, all I can say is good for you both. Now days it’s so easy to bail but thank goodness you had great roots to keep you grounded. Take care, Sweetie!
June 30, 2009 at 9:21 am
Hey, Mama Pixie!
Congrats again on finding a home for the book of your heart. I’m still in awe that you can dream a book in its entirety, that the Irish storyteller in you can deliver a fully-formed story while I struggle for months just to develop the most skeletal of GMCs.
I also think it’s amazing that you and Kristina share such a creative, energizing bond. My three boys and I, well, I just don’t see the whole “let’s co-write a romance together” shtick going very far with any of them. You and Kristina are such
beautiful, warm, generous souls, that I can’t imagine a better partnership. I look forward to many great books coming from both of you!
As for marriage and its longevity, what’s worked for my DH and me is a whole lot of humor, support for our different passions, not sweating the small stuff, a relatively equal division of labor, mutual respect, and the fact that I’m still crazily attracted to my honey!
Hugs and I can’t wait to see you in DC!
Tatia
June 30, 2009 at 9:45 am
Hey there Pixie~
I am so, so happy to know your book is getting published, and I can’t wait to read it. I already know first-hand what a fabulously entertaining storyteller you are in person. It’s the Irish in you.
You’re a natural.
Hope a day late is okay!
btw, I love Creme Brulee too!!
Kris
June 30, 2009 at 9:47 am
OMG Tatia!! What a fun surprise to see your name and message this morning. Your compliments make me glow all over, but I know for a fact how incredibly gifted and giving you are which makes me even more proud to know you. Love your insight into marriage and the fact that you still call your DH your honey. Sweeeet! See you in DC…
June 30, 2009 at 11:52 am
Okay, now I KNOW the wagons have circled…Kris Kennedy is in the house.
What can I say? We Irish storytellers have quite a line, don’t we, Kris? BTW, I ordered a copy of your book and can’t wait to read it, but I definitely want your official John Hancock for prosperity. Will even share some Brulee with you when we meet again, my Pixie Darlin’…
-Kaylin
June 30, 2009 at 12:14 pm
LOL – Yes the Irish are quite something with a story, aren’t we? Our stories just keep getting bigger and better each time we tell them.
Yes–let’s plan for some Creme Brulee and a glass of wine! When is your release?
June 30, 2009 at 1:38 pm
Thanks for asking, Kris! Officially releasing FLAHERTY’S CROSSING in February 2010. (Was that a plug, or what??) And the wine is, of course, mandatory…
June 30, 2009 at 8:47 pm
My sincere thanks, Keli, for making this all possible. I loved having the opportunity to interact with some great folks and being in the spotlight for a while. What an amazing job you do in orchestrating your interviews and creating an informative blog site! With nearly 20,000 visitors to date, I would say you’ve made a huge splash in this arena and should be very proud of yourself.
-Kaylin
July 1, 2009 at 8:02 pm
Thank you for taking the time to read about me and for all your comments!
July 2, 2009 at 8:05 pm
I’m sorry I’m so late to post here.
Hey Kaylin/Mama Pixie–I’m so thrilled for all your recent writing successes. It couldn’t happen to a nicer person.
My marriage secret? I’ve been married 22 years because I married my best friend.
He’s pretty awesome (except for when he keeps interrupting me as I write…worse than the kids).
July 2, 2009 at 11:10 pm
Ahhhh, my sweet Becky! How nice to hear from you. Know what you mean about the interruptions. Experience that myself from time to time. But I’m not sure if it’s because my DH is getting old or if he’s jealous of all the love I put in my books.
Hugs,
-Kaylin